Growing Wiser With Diane Keaton

The Scottish Sun
Diane Keaton: Don’t get obsessed with men like Woody Allen
March 4, 2013

BetteMiddler

HOLLYWOOD star Diane Keaton was Woody Allen’s girlfriend and co-star in the 1970s – which is when she scooped a best actress Oscar for her role in his movie, Annie Hall.

Diane, 67, never married, despite having lovers including Al Pacino and Warren Beatty.

She has two adopted children – daughter Dexter, 17, and son Duke, aged 12.

Her latest comedy, The Big Wedding, is tipped to be a summer blockbuster.

She told GARTH PEARCE what she wishes she’d known at 18.

“AT 18, I spent too long worrying and obsessing over men.

I think it might have been a problem of my generation, growing up in the 1950s.

You were “picked” by a man. You were “chosen”.

You can’t imagine that attitude today — or, at least, I hope you can’t.

I wanted to marry Al Pacino. But even if I had got what I wanted, I doubt it would have been a happy marriage. I really loved him. The first time I met him was in The Godfather movie (released in 1972, when she was 26) and I worked with him again in The Godfather Part II (1974). I gave him an ultimatum to marry me.

 

I am not sure what I was up to, other than I knew I wanted something. I wish I’d understood myself better.

I love men. But I think my expectations are pretty much diminished in that area. I also wish I had understood bulimia.

I lived a big lie, eating a large amount of food in public, throwing up in private and still fitting in to tiny dresses.

This was happening in my 20s. I did not have a structure, like college life or marriage. I never quite knew what to do or how to deal with it.

Did I tell anyone at the time? Absolutely not.

I had emotional problems, which were the bane of my existence.

As much as I was very lucky to be so successful and be part of these films, I don’t think I was curious enough about how they were made. I had therapy because I suffered from low self-esteem. I wish I had realised you have to get smart and get healthy.

Even when I was with Warren Beatty, I never thought he would stick around. My mother, Dorothy, was wonderful and I wish I could have appreciated her more.

When I was younger I always thought about her helping me get what I wanted for myself. She gave me the chance to dream. In a certain sense, she was the love of my life.

She had so much vitality and energy. That is why my book — Then Again: A Memoir. published in 2011 — was a tribute.

Why did I wait so late to have children? I didn’t think about it. I wasn’t ready.

A former lover said to me: “You are a very late developer.” I was young when he said it, but he hit the nail on the head. I have always been conscious about age. I remember when I was 30, it was supposed to be a big deal — but people forgot my birthday and I didn’t make anything of it.

Everything, strangely, has got better with each decade. My 40th was not so bad and for my 50th I had a big party with Goldie Hawn and Bette Midler.

With my 60th, I did not know what to do, so I just thought a lot about time. I knew that I had to cherish every single minute from that point onwards.

Life takes on a different flavour with age. It is a much deeper experience and more satisfying. It is also more exciting and interesting.

When I adopted my children, I had to become more of a giving person.

And I had never been like that. I had been completely self-involved. I am an actress, after all!

Hollywood afforded me opportunity. But how do you want to take it? Do you want to be a big movie star and do whatever it takes to be a big movie star?

I have had opportunities, but did not really want the attention so much.

When I was linked with Keanu Reeves after the film Something’s Gotta Give (2003) it was one of the most hilarious things I had read in my life.

I wish I could say that there WAS a link and I was flattered that anyone would even think of us as an item.

My life is full, but not full of romantic love. I do not feel sad about that.

Now, I realise you can’t have everything.”Read more: 

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